This weekend my husband said those four filthy words to me. I'd like to think I'm an even-headed gal, but it will take some time for the mean sentiment to fade. Before I share the offending statement, may I remind you?
I commute 4 hours a day to my full time job. I pre-prepare dinner at 5am on most days. I arrange a live-in au pair to mind the girls. I read to the girls every night. I cook, clean and bake on the weekends. I initiate date nights for us. And,
I sew on Saturday mornings. In the last nine months I have sewed 9-12pm on a handful of evenings, mostly finishing projects for the girls.
On Saturday he announced he was going to watch a match at 7pm, which translates to "Shot gun! I get the television!"
Earlier he and I discussed the ridiculous behavior of Irish lawmakers and he spoke of inappropriate alcohol consumption. Funny he should say that, to which I inferred that 'everyone' could do with a bit more prioritising over alcohol, albiet, we live in a culture nutured over generations.
The football match began while Babydoll and I baked cookies. Then I set to sewing. Cutiepie, forever the sportsgirl, joined him in watching the match. I could hear her peppering him with questions in between hoops and hollers.
And that's when he said what he said. Full of dislike for our earlier conversation and an impatience for interruptions in the match, he marched into the kitchen and dished it out to me:
You. sew. too. much.
That was his mildest statement that I choose to share. I spare you the ridiculous argument that ensued, save to say he makes incredulous statements like, "there's a reason it's all old ladies who sew!"
In complete shock and upset, I bundled all my sewing and packed it in the attic. Bear with me as I muddle through this domestic squabble. As always, there are bigger things behind the lense.
It took me a few days to stop shaking long enough to photograph and post my project for class.
Maybe I should do what he does every night? There'd be war over who gets the remote and he'd be ever more sorry he scolded me for sewing!